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Let’s Talk About Sex: Dr. Viviana Coles Gets Real on the Whine Down Podcast

In one of the most candid episodes yet of Whine Down with Jana Kramer and Allan, I had the pleasure of joining the conversation to address the questions that so many couples are too shy to ask—but desperately want answers to.

From how often couples should be having sex to whether or not masturbation is healthy in committed relationships, we didn’t hold anything back. These are the kinds of conversations I believe every couple should be having—not just with their partner, but also with themselves.

The Most Common Sexual Struggles in Relationships

We explored one of the biggest causes of a bad sex life in long-term relationships: emotional disconnection. When partners aren't emotionally in sync, physical intimacy often becomes a chore, a battleground, or disappears altogether. I shared why couples need to feel emotionally safe and respected in order to enjoy consistent, satisfying intimacy.

So… How Much Sex Is Normal?

Spoiler alert: there’s no magic number. Every couple is different. But I did offer some data-backed guidance on what research shows as a healthy average—and how to approach those numbers with flexibility and compassion instead of pressure.

Is Masturbation Okay When You're Committed?

Absolutely. We talked about why self-pleasure isn’t just “okay,” but can actually enhance a couple’s connection, help reduce pressure during partnered sex, and support individual body awareness and confidence.

Try “Stealth Seductions”

One of my favorite tips I shared? Stealth seductions. These are small, low-pressure moments of flirtation and arousal that happen outside the bedroom—and without the expectation of sex right away. Think slow kisses, whispered compliments, lingering touches, and spontaneous affection. These moments build anticipation and keep desire alive over time.

If you’ve ever felt unsure about what’s “normal” in your sex life or just wanted an expert’s take on how to bring back the spark, this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen here: Whine Down with Jana Kramer and Allan – “It’s Time to Talk About Sex”

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